So, Dr. Lucho, my long time crush finally asked me to be his girlfriend, but when I hung out with him and his sister yesterday I could tell his sister hates me. When my boyfriend wasn’t next to us, she warned me that I better know my place. What do I do?
Relationships can be hard, especially if others’ jealousy is involved. I think that you should try to build a positive relationship with his sister. Try hanging out with her to prove that you’re not going to steal her brother away from her. Do not confront her directly, but do let her know that you’re not possessive. That’s the best solution: to counteract her passivenessIby giving her the opposite. It’s kind of like give her a taste of her own medicine but in a smarter way!
Be the nicest person on earth, dear. Don’t you think about getting sassy with or in front of her; that will only make her add you to her ´girls I need to finish’ list. You want to be the girl she wants to spend time with, or at least the one who she trusts enough to let her brother hang out with. Trust is the quintessential pillar in these things.
This feud between you two could potentially lead your boyfriend to question the plausibility of this relationship, so you must handle it with care. Take your time and don’t force her to like you. Just be passive and demonstrate that you are worthy of her trust. Talking to your boyfriend may also be helpful. Tell him how you feel and how his sister makes you feel. Don’t make it seem that you’re making him chose between you and her, but show him how concerned you are about the problem and that you’re willing to fix it.