Dear Dr. Love,
I am destroyed; my boyfriend has been acting weird lately. We haven’t spent time together like before and I can see him having more “friends”. I think he feels I am an obligation. I can’t help but feel jealous, instead of acting normal I’ve been paranoid and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’ve tried several times asking him if everything was all right. At first he said everything was fine but after several days of me asking him he started acting weird. I don’t know if it is because I’ve been very needy or because he is really getting tired of me. Last night I called him and he acted so weird that I told him if he wanted to break up with me, he said he didn’t understand what was wrong with me and we fought. I don’t know where we are standing now, and I feel very confused and sad. What should I do? Does he still love me? Please help me Dr. Love!
I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling with your relationship. I recommend that you take some time to yourself, let things cool down and try to manage your emotions better. Jealousy is the one killing factor of relationships; try to build up your trust in yourself first and after that with him. Imagine that every person is free to be with whoever they want, if your boyfriend is with you its because he wants to be with you, he doesn’t has the obligation. Boys are black and white, when they say yes they mean yes and when they say no they mean no. It’s normal when guys enjoy spending time with his friends. Show him that you don’t depend on him either! Maybe he got stressed out since you asked him several times what was wrong, maybe he felt that the one who didn’t wanted to stay in the relationship was you. Communication is very important and if something is bothering you, approach to him in a calm manner and explain him why you are feeling this way and find a solution. However if after you take all this steps he keeps on acting weird and letting you out of his plans, you should think if this guy is the one you want to be with.
Hope it helps, Dr. Love